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Focus For The New Year

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Hello Readers,

Happy holidays to you and your families.  I’m glad to be back as I recover from a unexpected fall.  Being in the medical field myself, really help me to understand so much about the care needed to get better.  This is why I write about safety often on this blog, because so much can happen in a blink of an eye. Most falls are accidental, or dued to negligence of some sort.  Do be safe in everything you do. Most people recover from a fall, but other can have lifetime injuries that can be life changing.

As we approach the new year, have you been thinking of how you can improve our present situation with so many changes that have occurred this year including the Pandemic, climate change and war?  Have you reflected back to what you have already contributed to make the world better in some sort of way? And now, as you plan for your future, are you doing something for yourself to enhance your health, financial and family connections?

Though we can’t solve all problems of the world, it is those little things we do to make a dent in not only yourself, but that of others.

Give yourself credit for all the wonderful things you do for others.  Even write it down if you need to, because we forget all that we have done for others and forget your own needs.

Again, well wishes for you for the holidays, and always think a little about tomorrow.  There’s a lot to talk about as we head into 2024. Praying for peace in the world could be the best start.  Saving Earth from the turmoil of humans towards each other, is truly something to be concern about.

Yes, there’s a lot to talk about and do. Climate change have made more people homeless than ever before.  Affordable homes are greatly needed and equality in education and pay really affect the American economy. Just one piece of the puzzle missing will not give you the complete picture, to see, understand, and react for change.

Thank you for visiting this blog.  My best advice for the year is to stop, look, listen, learn and react.  Be grateful for all you have, and don’t take anyone for granted.  Even if someone you really don’t care to be speaking to them-someone you know already and is sane- it’s good to respond back in some form, because they deserve that respect as a human-being.  There is such a thing as limited friendships. Some friends you know you can talk about certain subjects and others you can’t.  You’ve got to know your people.  Seriously!

With so much tracking going on, you don’t have to say in your texting, exactly where you’re going or coming from to those you don’t want to share that information.  To yourself, be your own best friend.

 

Talk soon, (looking forward to your comments.)

Thelma Harcum

 

Alerts On Father’s Day

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Happy Father’s Day to all who are fathers to your children and that of others.

Like Mother’s Day, it’s the time to be thankful for the great fathers out there who have stood by their children and have been the best support in their well-being.

It is a time to share time, share a thought, share memories of  the good things you have about them.

Not everyone feel that way about their fathers, and for many reasons.  What I say to that is to understand that many fathers could not be there for you because they had a problem that they could not handle and/or have stepped out of a difficult situation in order for them to survive.    Part of this life is to understand and reach out when that person is unable to reach out to you.   If you are unable to reach out, than  step out, so that you will not   sink with the ship. Keep trying if you think it is  an urgent situation and let someone else know.

When you have done all you can do for a person, it is time to stand back and to go towards the door that is open for you and step in.  When you have done your part to try to remedy a situation, there’s  no guilt, no hard feelings, and most of all, you are the whole person that you were made to be.

Yes, holidays are fun for some, but for others, there are great memories of a father not here, and/or a father here, but not here.  Many people suffer so much with each holiday, that the need for a hot line should be available for those that need.

Today, I called and wished several of my siblings and brother-in-laws a wonderful Father’s day.  Fathers are so important to the family and make the family what it was meant to be. A family. All children want to know is if you are there when they need you.  That alone represent love to them. Love,  many times,  if not most times is a non-verbal expression.  Especially in many families who don’t exhibit  expressions of love of hugs and kisses, but perhaps a pat on the back and a acknowledging smile and listening,  seems to be the norm for them. 

When my mother-now deceased- would place a special plate at the table for me when I visited,  to me,  was an expression of love as I sat between her and her husband, my step-father and enjoyed a meal together.  All of the other children  got their own and perhaps ate at a different times or have eaten already. I was the oldest of the 13 children where there seems to be a generation gaps between us and so a few of the children  might have been in diapers, drink out of milk bottles or was  sleeping.

I hope this is a great day for you and your father.  If your father is not there, go find someone to connect with or call others you know,  just to wish them a happy day.  Do something great for yourself on father’s day in memory of your father if that be the case. Be thankful for fathers who are real fathers.  Be Grateful!

“If you have nothing to give your children in fine clothes and money,  and you are down and out,  than Give your heart to them as  all is well in their eyes.”  quote by Thelma Harcum

By, Thelma Harcum

PS.  Yesterday, while driving  in Atlantic City,  I saw a car that said “Suicide alert”  written all over it with contact numbers and other contact phrases.  I have never seen a car like that.  It seem the suicide rate is up there where people are gambling and lose their money and among  people in the limelight who has celebrity status.   Teen suicide has been going up all along.   I believe much of the drug abuses are because of people trying to numb the pain they are experiencing,  when they need to seek out  t counseling. 

Perhaps this is a subject to investigate more to understand.   If you think you are suicidal or having thoughts of harming yourself or even someone else, call the suicidal prevention lifeline number  1-800-273-8255 or call the hospital and even 911 for  help.  Medications, chemical imbalances, family disputes, broken relationships, or some extreme loss are some sort, are some of the reasons. You are not alone when problems occur.  The most important thing to do is to talk to somebody, anybody, to get some insight on why you are feeling the way you do and call that number.   Counseling is important for anyone who have a problem they can’t sort out.  You mental health is very important for your well-being.  You life is very important!!!!   
Thelma Harcum